“You Keep Using That Word; I Do Not Think It Means What You Think It Means.”

Yesterday was National Equal Pay Day. Apparently, April 12 is the day “that symbolizes how far into the year women must work to earn what men earned in the previous year.” (http://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/2016/04/12/equal-pay-day-inequality-women-gender/82913078/)

 

Now I was well aware that women earn less per hour than men for doing the same job. That is old information – which I had hoped would have changed more by this point in our nation’s history. But I had not heard of the reasoning for marking that particular date.

 

What brought all this to my attention was a facebook post. A friend of a friend had posted a screen shot of a series of tweets by a woman on the topic of #EqualPayDay. I was surprised by the litany of complaints that almost protested the day. Basically, they boiled down to the following list of problems that the speaker seems to believe women “complain” about and the way that women can overcome those problems, earning more money.

 

–Women with kids leave the workforce more than men – so keep working

–Men work more dangerous jobs – so women should go be oil drillers

–Women go into fields like education & psychology – so go into STEM fields

–Women want jobs with flexibility – so get a 9-5 job

–Men work longer hours – so women should work longer hours

–Women don’t negotiate their pay like men do – so ask for more money

 

While my friend had commented (and that was why I even saw this post) on the difficulty that women have in the STEM fields (put a pin in that – we’ll be back), most of the comments that I saw below the post were along the lines of “Exactly!” – “Women are whiners!” – “Shut up and work if you want to make more money!”

 

My reaction was, “Wow, they really don’t understand the concept of equal pay.”

 

Most of these points are – well – dumb. Of course someone who works more hours will earn more money – if the work is paid hourly. Of course someone who works more years will earn more money. A person can’t earn money with no job. And of course certain jobs have higher rates of pay. A customer service rep does not earn the same salary as a shift manager; a paralegal generally does not earn the same salary as a lawyer.

 

Duh.

 

No one is saying that “equal pay” means a woman and a man should have the same income for the year regardless of their jobs. The crux of the matter is that if there are two open spots with the same level of responsibility, and a man and a woman (with identical degrees in business and identical GPAs) are hired, the chances are strong that the man will be hired at a higher rate of pay than the woman.

 

That’s the problem we’re talking about. Two people doing the exact same job should earn the same amount of money.

 

I’m reminded of the leaked info from the Sony hack. Not only did it point out that Jennifer Lawrence made less than her male co-stars (and she already had an Oscar while Cooper and Renner did not), but it highlighted that the two co-presidents of production at Columbia Pictures have an almost $1 million difference in their pay: $2.4 mil for the man, $1.5 mil for the woman. While I can certainly understand that the higher paid person might have more experience, that’s a pretty steep gap for two people doing the same job. (And I’m not just holding Ghost Rider and The Love Guru against De Luca.)

 

These tweets also try to make the whole situation appear incredibly simple: just make different choices and voila! more money. But reality is not that simple.

 

Women have trouble getting maternity leave or coming back after maternity leave – or even just getting hired because employers assume that women will *at some point* go off and have kids. According to a Guardian article,

“A third of managers would rather employ a man in his 20s or 30s over a woman of the same age for fear of maternity leave, according to a new study. A survey of 500 managers by law firm Slater & Gordon showed that more than 40% admitted they are generally wary of hiring a woman of childbearing age, while a similar number would be wary of hiring a woman who has already had a child or hiring a mother for a senior role.”

The study to which the article refers also discusses how a third of management “claim that women are not as good at their jobs when they come back from maternity leave.” And this was written in 2014.

 

So what should women do? Not have children? Promise that the husband will be staying home to shoulder the majority of the burden? It’s not even the woman’s problem. Managers don’t want to hire a woman of a certain age just because they fear she will want to have children. And women are penalized for already having children in a way that men are not (when it comes to hiring) – because it is assumed that the woman will be with the children more than the man.

 

That is all on society. How is a woman supposed to fight all that before she even gets the job and wants to earn equal pay?

 

As for “work more hours” or “work a 9-5 job” or “work longer,” well, that again is not always in the control of the worker. Just wanting a 9-5 job does not mean a person gets to have one, nor does wanting extra hours mean a person gets them – regardless of gender.

 

Oh, and the “ask for more money” bit? Okay, pumpkin, you try that and let me know how it goes.

 

Asking for more money – either at the start of a job or as a raise – just doesn’t go over well for almost anyone these days. The employers hold the cards; there might be hundreds of applicants for the job. Why bother with someone who wants more money when the employer can just move on to another qualified person who will settle for the first offer?

 

Add in that women in particular are seen as “pushy” or “bitchy” or “hard to work with” if they ask for more money. Again, this is not a new idea and is well documented. I remember the blog post that made the rounds a couple of years ago about a woman who had been offered a job at a college and when she tried to negotiate, her job offer disappeared. Granted, there could be factors we don’t know about, and we cannot assume we know the whole story. But the consensus seems to be that there was no discussion: she sent an email with requests, acknowledging that some might be easier to fulfill than others, and asked what the new employer thought. The response was not to talk about the options but to say never mind about the job.

 

Women in general suffer more when they try to negotiate. The New Yorker article about this incident points out that studies have shown this repeatedly. “In four studies, Bowles and collaborators from Carnegie Mellon found that people penalized women who initiated negotiations for higher compensation more than they did men.” Just another hurdle in the “do these simple things and you’ll make as much money as a man” checklist.

 

So let’s go back to the argument of how women should just go into fields where they would make more money. I know nothing about being an oil driller, so I checked. An NPR article from last year tells me it’s not as bad as I thought it would be. I assumed a fair amount of sexism and trouble getting hired. This article suggests that while the sexism is there, the climate has gotten better, and that companies like ExxonMobil are now going after female employees.

“The oil giant holds an annual “Introduce a Girl to Engineering Day.” The company also sends its female engineers and scientists to middle schools as mentors and instructors, “all aimed at getting [female students] interested in the subject and preparing them for taking math and science courses in high school that will help them study engineering in college,” Keil says.”

 

Great – so what’s stopping women?

 

Oh, yeah, back to my friend Rick’s point about women having trouble in the STEM fields. It’s well documented that girls are simply not as encouraged from a young age when it comes to interest in math and science. (Interesting article with Eileen Pollack about her book on being a woman in the sciences: http://www.pbs.org/newshour/bb/encouraging-girls-become-scientists-rocket-science/)

 

Women also have to deal with things like the idiocy of elected officials (like U.S. Representative Louie Gohmert and a few others) who vote against a bill that would “increase federal funds to programs that promote women in the fields of Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics (STEM) within the commercial free market.” Mainly because what about those poor little boys we’ll be leaving behind if we force girls into science?

 

(This from the man who brilliantly links a idea of limits on gun magazines to the issue of gay marriage – no, I can’t really explain it because it made no sense to me. Something about how limiting a magazine to 10 bullets was arbitrary, like if we say marriage is not just one man and one woman, then we’ll have three men and one woman or one person and an animal – “There is no clear place to draw the line once you eliminate the traditional marriage and it’s the same once you start putting limits on what guns can be used” – like I said, I can’t explain it. Bonus points to you if you can. But I fear understanding Gohmert is a path to Lovecraftian sanity loss.)

 

Or women have to deal with a Nobel Prize winning scientist who suggests that women should be banned from labs because they are a distraction. He says, “Three things happen when they are in the lab: you fall in love with them, they fall in love with you, and when you criticise them they cry.” And he defended these remarks by saying he meant them to be “light-hearted and ironic” but he was also trying to be “honest.” The Daily Mail article additionally points out that, “Science careers are still vastly dominated by men, with only 13 per cent of workers being women. The gap is also significant in academia, where 84 per cent of full-time professors working in science, engineering and technology are men.”

 

(Incidentally, if you didn’t follow the eruption on twitter of women scientists tweeting pictures of themselves as #distractinglysexy in things like hazmat suits, then you missed out. “I did an entire liver transplant without crying or falling in love!” one scientist bragged.)

 

So where and how are women supposed to study and get into these higher paying STEM fields? Yes, they can make it through – it’s not impossible. But it’s also not as simple as just saying “oh, I think I want to make more money so I’ll go into ____.”  The bias against women in the field exists, and so getting the education or experience necessary to get the jobs can be a great challenge.

 

Again, not that women can’t overcome that challenge. But it’s a complex issue, layered with centuries of sexism and bias. These tweets are missing the critical core issue of equal pay for equal work and displaying a lack of critical thinking. Yes, these issues of being discriminated against simply for being able to bear children and the subconscious bias that privileges men do need to be dealt with eventually. (And that bias is there – everywhere – just check out the story about how students give better evaluations to teachers they think are male – https://news.ncsu.edu/2014/12/macnell-gender-2014/)

 

These attitudes are entrenched and will take a long time to overcome. It’s not as simple as “just work more” or “get a different job.” But let’s start with the core issue – being paid the same amount for the same work. Maybe if we can conquer that, we can feel more like we’re building something and less like Sisyphus rolling that boulder up the mountain.

 

Whew – more than I meant to write, but these things happen.

 

 

Sony Hack info

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/12/12/exclusive-sony-hack-reveals-jennifer-lawrence-is-paid-less-than-her-male-co-stars.html

Maternity leave issue

http://www.theguardian.com/money/2014/aug/12/managers-avoid-hiring-younger-women-maternity-leave

Negotiating

http://www.newyorker.com/science/maria-konnikova/lean-out-the-dangers-for-women-who-negotiate

Women on oil rigs

http://www.npr.org/2015/05/08/400353815/oil-companies-look-to-fill-employment-gap-with-more-women

Nobel scientist

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3117648/Ban-women-male-labs-distracting-cry-criticised-says-Nobel-prize-winner-Sir-Tim-Hunt.html

Distractingly sexy

http://www.dailykos.com/story/2015/06/12/1392725/–Distractingly-Sexy-female-scientists-launch-hilarious-campaign-mocking-Nobel-Laureate-scientist?detail=email#

Gohmert’s comments

Louie Gohmert Thought He’d Be the Speaker of the House. Here Are 14 Other Crazy Things He Believes.

 

“Truth is Often Bitter – Left Unsaid”

And this is part three of the “12 albums that left a lasting impression” ramble. Context is everything. I remember someone telling me, when I was preparing to drive over to Nevada after my stepdad died, “be careful about which music you listen to because you don’t want to always associate it with this.”

 

That’s a good point in some ways. (Though I don’t actually recall much of anything about the drive – too much shock and sadness – and could not tell you what I had playing.) Certain music can get so tied to a particular person or time or feeling that we can’t listen to it later. The emotions seem to be stuffed into the notes and come pouring over us whether we want them to or not.

 

However, that can also just happen with any song. I recall once bursting into tears upon a hearing of “I Will Survive.” When I think of that song, I think of the jail dance scene in The Replacements. So why did that particular time make me cry? Well, it was a tough time for me on a personal level, and something about it just hit me. I didn’t want to be crying in the middle of Southern California late afternoon traffic, but music can do that. Music is like poetry – distilled emotion.

 

The last four.

 

Pink Floyd – The Wall

I knew the chorus to “Another Brick in the Wall Part 2” – I think every school child in the early 80s knew that. In eighth grade, my friends and I would sing it at recess; we thought we were so cool – and we were so wrong. Then in high school, my boyfriend (yes, the same one who gave me the Journey album) showed me the movie and got me a copy of the soundtrack. “Goodbye Blue Sky” – “Run Like Hell” – “Hey You” – such amazing songs. Angsty, yes. But amazing. Maybe I thought it was perfect because I was in the middle of being an angst-ridden teenager filling notebooks with poetry that used far too many clichéd images. Haven’t we all been there, though? And that’s the point.

 

“Hey you – out there in the cold – getting lonely, getting old – can you feel me?”

 

 

Rush – Grace Under Pressure

This one, too, can be laid at the feet of my high school boyfriend. (Wonder whatever happened to Dave? After writing all this, I’m sort of feeling that I should find him and thank him for the music.) Rush was his favorite band; Tolkien was his favorite writer. The album Fly By Night has a song called “Rivendell” on it. Dave recorded that one for me (on the other side of Dream After Dream, as I recall). I liked some of it, enough to ask for more albums by Rush. He gave me Grace Under Pressure next, and that one hooked me. “Kid Gloves” – “The Body Electric” – “Distant Early Warning” – so much good music! And Peart’s writing has just gotten better over the years. Rush is one of my two favorite groups that I cannot be without. (Yes, if you read the other post, Indigo Girls is the other one. Yes, I have a little blue shuffle I call Speedy Blue that has nothing on it but the catalog of Indigo Girls and Rush. Yes, the combo makes perfect sense to me. But that is an explanation for another time.)

 

“Overwhelmed by everything – but wanting more so much”

 

 

The Smothers Brothers – The Two Sides of the Smothers Brothers

This makes me think of my grandparents. My sister and I would play the Smothers Brothers records over and over when we went to visit my grandparents. My grandfather especially loved the humor in many of these. He was a big fan of puns and wordplay. (I have a little wooden lean-to with thumbtacks inside that he made. It’s a tacks shelter – yes, he’s partly to blame for my mother’s and by extension my sense of humor.) This album is one of my favorites because not only does it have great comedy (“Laredo,” “Cabbage,” “Map of the World” – although, sadly, not my ultimate favorite “Crabs Walk Sideways”), it also has some beautiful songs. They sound wonderful together. And one of my best friends even took me to see them when we lived in Las Vegas. I still play their music and indoctrinate others.

 

“There were these vicious beasts in these deep crevasses – and they sure looked like pumas”

 

 

Vivaldi – The Four Seasons

I first heard this music as the soundtrack for the 1981 film of the same name. I guess that says something about my taste since I was a pre-teen and I still really got into the drama of the film. Sure, it’s got a lot of funny bits, but it always struck me more as a reflective movie rather than a comedy. And my mom loves the film, too, so it makes me think of her. But the music was my introduction to the classical genre. Vivaldi and other composers have become a staple in my musical rotation; I concentrate best with instrumental music (so I’m not distracted by singing along). While my library now includes a decent amount of classical works, Four Seasons always has a special place in my heart.

 

Just twelve required on the list – and there are the twelve. I feel like I could go on about various songs and albums and all the memories they evoke, but maybe I’d best save some of that material for a future date.

 

 

 

**Incidentally, these were also on my first short list. But the whys and wherefores are for another time.

 

ABBA – Greatest Hits Vol. 2

B-52s – Whammy!

Bay City Rollers — Greatest Hits,

Melissa Etheridge – Brave and Crazy

Huey Lewis and the News – Four Chords and Several Years Ago

Robert Johnson – The Complete Recordings

Les Miserables – London Cast Recording

The Replacements – Don’t Tell a Soul

Yaz — Upstairs at Eric’s

“I Burn Up In Your Presence”

Welcome to part two of the “12 albums that left a lasting impression” ramble. As I said, I can’t help but want to give context for my list of albums. There’s a vast amount of good music in the world (happy face here), but context is often what makes it so memorable on a personal level.

 

Like many people, I can recall very specific events and feelings associated with certain songs. Some of it is just odd. Not sure why I can still remember all the lyrics to songs I haven’t heard in years – like “Copacabana” – but I do. Lots of random lyrics rattling around in there – why am I retaining Air Supply lyrics? Why do I remember having Shaun Cassidy’s second album on eight track? Will I ever know all the words to “It’s the End of the World As We Know It”?

 

Who knows?

 

Next four on the list.

 

Bela Fleck and the Flecktones – UFO Tofu

My dad had a collection of Chuck (and Gap) Mangione albums, and while they were okay, I never felt very interested in jazz. But then in undergrad, my boyfriend took me to see Bela Fleck in concert. Wow. Kind of blew my mind in the “jazz can sound like this?” department. Although I guess some people call the band’s music bluegrass or folk rather than jazz, it served as an entry for me into a whole new category of music. I’m still learning about jazz – there are so many styles! – but I enjoy the fact that more than twenty years later, there’s still more to explore. Bonus points: the title is a palindrome, which delights my writerly self.

 

Indigo Girls – Rites of Passage

I heard this in undergrad (from the same guy as above, in fact). We had just discovered that I liked him and he liked me as more than friends and so now what do we do about it? Do we go ahead and risk the friendship to see if the “something more” works out? I was over at his place for dinner – sort of but not quite a first date – and he played “Ghost” for me; he said it had made him think of me when he heard it. I took the cd home that night and listened to it all. I fell in love with their voices and music. Amy Ray’s cover of “Romeo and Juliet” still gets a lot of play in my mixes, as does “Ghost” (today’s title is a line from that song). Near flawless album (not a huge fan of “Let It Be Me”) and they are still one of my two favorite groups.

 

Journey – Dream After Dream

My high school boyfriend recorded this for me (with a Rush album on the flip side, but I’ll get to that later). Like scads of 80’s teens, I imagine, “Faithfully” was “our” song. Since he knew I liked Journey, he thought I might like this album. It was a soundtrack for a Japanese film, and most of it is instrumental music. Big shock for me, considering that my experience with Journey was all top 40 hits. This album made me realize that any group/artist could make music that would surprise me. I just have to be willing to give it a listen.

 

Loreena McKennitt – The Visit

Beautiful voice, love what she does with poetry. Her version of “The Highwayman” is my favorite, but this is the first album of hers that I heard. One of my majors in school (yes, I did two bachelor degrees at the same time – the title of the blog should clue you in to my scholarly nerdliness) was English. I had a professor for Victorian literature who was a riot. To this day, I can’t teach “Dover Beach” without thinking about his story of using it to try to seduce a girl – it was working, he said – and trying to finish the last lines quickly before she really listened to what they were saying (which is decidedly unromantic – more like you’re my “mournful cosmic last resort” to quote Anthony Hecht’s “The Dover Bitch”). When we were reading Tennyson, the prof played McKennitt’s recording of “The Lady of Shalott” for us. Most of the class was bored (to be fair, it is more than ten minutes long), but I was entranced. After class, I asked to borrow the tape so I could copy it.

 

And on that note of admitting to a history of pirating music (but really, who didn’t record albums on cassette tapes and pass them around? you couldn’t play a record in your car), perhaps I should wrap up for the night.